These last fews weeks have been crazy busy and overall a little overwhelming. Leading up to Thanksgiving break all of my professors have been packing on the homework, exams, and essays, and readings. AND on top of it all I had to register for next semester’s classes, which I sometimes think is worse than finals. SO with the next few weeks being a little hectic for us college kids I thought I would share some ways to focus on the positives, deal with stressful situations, and stay out of the inevitable rut before the holidays when life gives you a few lemons.
If there is one thing that will help you see past the days that are a little bit harder, it’s gratitude. Honestly, for most people, gratitude is probably the last thing they think of when facing a small (or a major) life detour or find themselves in a stressful situation. But it can make all the difference.
Gratitude can also help you put things into perspective. I’m sitting here with a mind going in so many different directions thinking about so many different things even as I am writing this post. I’m thinking about the essays I should be writing and the laundry I still have yet to do. But I’m sitting here, feeling grateful.
No matter what situation or circumstances you find yourself in, even when feeling hopeless, remember that there are many amazing things and people in your life to be grateful for.
Make Time for Yourself
I’ve talked about this a few times before. Make self-care a priority. Give yourself some time. I know that it’s not always easy when you deal with things and going through stressful times. Sometimes during a small setback all you can think about, is how much work or productivity you will have to make up for. It’s okay to be tired, it’s okay to take a little break, to turn off your phone and take some time out, just for yourself.
Let Go of the Guilt & Blame
This is a big one. Blame is one of those things that we love to throw around. We blame others or, we blame ourselves for making a decision that we think has led us to be in a particular situation. Like “Why did I wait so long to start this essay?” or “Why did I procrastinate so long in writing this blog post?” Nothing comes from this and only makes us feel worse.
The same thing goes for blaming others- nothing positive comes from blaming others for your problems. It won’t make you feel better and it won’t make a difficult situation any easier. Even when you know that someone else’s actions resulted in your current circumstance- try your best to let go of that blame. Try to think about the fact that there is a solution for every problem and that is a great mindset to have when you’re going through a difficult time. It doesn’t matter whose fault it is or how it could have been prevented, there is a solution for every problem.
Yesterday is gone. Your future starts now. Some things can be hard to let go of, but there comes a point when you have to ask yourself: “am I going to let this stop me?”
Every “bad” or difficult situation you might find yourself in, every single challenge, carries a lesson. Of course, there are times when you wish you could avoid learning the lesson and not go through a certain challenge or struggle- but that’s just a part of life.
Difficult times come and go, but the valuable lessons they teach you will stay with you forever.