Growing up, this concept was drilled into my brain and boy am I thankful for that. My parents have always taught me that you are the only person who can change your life if you aren’t happy with it. If you want something, you have to ask for it and go get it. The worst they can say is no. And you can’t be scared of the possibilities of the no because it could end up a yes.
This has really become apparent to me since I have started my college journey. I will always have my family and friends to lean on, but it’s really up to me at this point. I am in charge of my future and this kind of independence has only heightened that drive inside me. It’s a terrifying and liberating feeling all at the same time. It’s a pressure, but a good pressure because it’s all in my hands and I can mold it into anything I want it to be.
I have always been someone who has lived in fear. Fear of what people thought of me, fear I would mess up, fear I would make the wrong choices. I was in a constant state of worry, and to some extent I still am. I have very high standards for my life and how it will turn out. I put a lot of pressure on myself to live up to those expectations I have worked so hard to establish. I have a plan and why stray from the goal, right?
I have made a lot of changes in my life in the last few months, all for the better. These changes weren’t always easy, but they caused me to grow up and look at things with a different perspective. I had to remind myself that you have to demand the best because you deserve the best. You have to be your own best friend. You know what is best for you and what you want. Just take it one day at a time and set small goals for yourself. Work up to the bigger ones. There are so many possibilities for you and you can’t wait around for things to happen. Go make things happen, experience different places, cultures, and meet all types of people. Trust in God’s plan, practice self-love, and make yourself proud.