I think you have grown more this year than you ever have. You have learned so much, made new friends, experienced new things, and made memories that you hope to never forget. You have found a passion in writing and are hopeful for the future. You have a group of people who support you and love you. You have everything you could ever need, so embrace it. But there are some things I have learned and want to share with you going forward.
People change, and that’s okay.
As we know, you aren’t good with change. You want to be a good friend to everyone, and have the intense desire to have everyone like you and make people happy. You are a yes person, you are a people pleaser. You don’t like conflict, and you like things to go your way. When they don’t, you get thrown off and a little confused. Recently more than ever, you have learned that people change and that is okay. I firmly believe that God places people in your life for a reason. You need those people at a certain time in your life and He knows that. They will help you figure stuff out and grow in ways you never thought you would. They will teach you things about yourself and be there for you when you need them the most. But times change, you change, and people change. Don’t let this get to you. Trust in God that He has a plan and everything happens for a reason. This is just the beginning and it can only get better from here.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
You are a worrier. You worry about everything and anything. You worry about your friends, your family, the most random of things, and people you don’t even know. You have a big heart and your compassion can at times be your ultimate Achilles’ heel. Take this time to focus on yourself and what makes you happiest. If it isn’t going to matter a year from now or even a month from now, it’s not as big of a deal as you think, I promise.
Meet as many people as you can.
You didn’t really come out of your shell socially until your senior year. You had a really solid group of friends all through high school but there were so many more I wish you would have gotten to know. Going forward, throw yourself in head on, and meet as many new people as you can right away. I know you’re not the biggest fan of new situations, but do it for yourself. You’ll thank yourself in the long run.
You are constantly worrying about what other people think of you, and quite honestly I think they could care less. They have themselves to worry about. So be the truest and loveliest version of yourself. Show people your honest, caring, and sometimes funny side to you. It’s okay if you look like a fool sometimes. It’s okay if you mess up. It really is okay. Do what you want to do and don’t let your confidence get in the way. Show people who you are, the real Anna.
Accept the fact that things won’t always go your way and learn from it.
You want everything to be perfect all the time. Throw that thought away right now, because that probably will never be the case. This is a really hard thing for you to accept and want to live in your fantasy world all the time. Take it in and grow from it. Know that nothing or no one is perfect no matter how much you want it to be. Be aware you can’t always fix things. You are a fixer when things don’t go right. You do whatever you can to make it right or change what happened, but you have to for your own sanity realize if it’s worth being fixed. Most of the time, it’s not.